Friday, June 19, 2009

Mind Wanderings

I mean this in the literal sense.

In the past week I have left my van running in the parking lot while I'm running errands. Keys in the ignition. It's not been stolen.

God is good to me and has taken care of me.

I was getting 3 to 5 hours of sleep at night. While that may be normal for some, it is not for me. I was this ( ) close to going street~rat crazy. LOL Anyhow, I caved and went to Dr Ari. She told me that what I am going through is normal, duh! That I have situational anxiety, ya think? So, she prescribed paxil, and after reading numerous complaints and praises, I'm taking it. Anything that can make me think straight is a help right now. Besides I get my 8 hours of much needed beauty sleep.

I have started sewing again, almost ready to send out sets that were sold last Thursday. A big thank you to my understanding customers, you are the greatest.

My kids are plugging along. They all have their moments, but they understand that it's ok to cry, to be sad, to be mad. Well, if I'm feeling that way, how can I not expect it out of them. I'm praying for them all the time, that this doesn't make them bitter.

Our faith has been made stronger through all of this. We see daily answers to prayers, and it eases the pain a little. Great is Thy faithfulness!

Wednesday, June 10, 2009


A new life as a widow really has it's ups and downs. You can cry at the drop of the hat, and please do so, it helps clear the clutter on the brain.
Ok, so everything has been put on hold. Must receive Certified Death Certificates before anything can be done.
I have been sitting, and waiting, in rooms for the past week and I have concluded that some people don't bathe. That is my biggest concern. I have one more place to go tomorrow and I just cringe. How people, in this day and age, forgoe a bath is beyond me.
The other is the way that veterans are treated. I've been to the VAMC here in Houston and it's one of the better, but not by much. I know the government alots so much money in their budget for the caring of vets, but it's not enough.

When your loved one dies, here's a checklist:
1. Find the will, if there is one. If you don't have one, make one. Even handwritten is better than nothing.

2. Find all insurance policies, 401K papers. If your spouse was in the military, find DD 214. These benefits don't kick in til at least 4~6 weeks from signing the papers through HR at the VAMC.

3. I emptied my hubby's checking, bills were paid from this account.

4. If you have children, sign up for Survivors Benefits through the Social Security. (This you have to do in person.)

5. Now will be an emotional time for you, but don't jump the gun and pre-purchase your funeral. Put that money somewhere s it will grow, therefore your suvivors get much more for them, than just you getting a funeral. Believe me, it will be needed. I particularly want to be shot into space, but that's just me.

This is it for today.

Checklist for me:

1. Open IRA account.
2. Open my own checking account.
3. Interveiw several financial advisors.
4. Find a good realtor.
5. Buy home for cash.
6. Buy new car for cash.
and most importantly,
Follow Dave Ramsey's advice and live debt free!!!